--- title: 'What is ODD? A guide for parents' url: 'https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/what-is-odd-a-guide-for-parents' markdown: 'https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/what-is-odd-a-guide-for-parents.md' date: '2026-10-15' description: 'The school is telling me my 10-year-old son is being obstructive, not doing what he’s told at school. I’ve told him that he’s always been like this, and I think he may have oppositional defiant disorder, but I’ve never had him diagnosed. They imply I’m just a bad parent. Can you help?' taxonomy: category: - Toolkit tag: - ODD - ADHD - 'Conduct Disorder' type: - Video contributor: - 'Dr Bettina Hohnen' --- # How to help a child with oppositional defiant disorder: A parent's guide [ ODD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ODD) [ ADHD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ADHD) [ Conduct Disorder ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Conduct%20Disorder) [ ![Nip in the Bud](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/themes/nitb/images/logos/round-logo.png) ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/about-us "About Nip in the Bud") ![Dr Bettina Hohnen](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/06.about-us/02.authors-and-experts/dr-bettina-hohnen/dr-bettina-hohnen.webp) Speaker [Dr Bettina Hohnen](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/about-us/authors-and-experts/dr-bettina-hohnen)speaker Duration: 0h 8m 8s Published: August 2025 The school is telling me my 10-year-old son is being obstructive, not doing what he’s told at school. I’ve told him that he’s always been like this, and I think he may have oppositional defiant disorder, but I’ve never had him diagnosed. They imply I’m just a bad parent. Can you help? --- Was this helpful? 0 0 Share: [ Previous Post](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/5-family-wellness-tips-that-actually-work) [Next Post ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/supporting-a-child-with-dyslexia) #### Other Related Posts: ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/03.home-life/tips-for-parents/managing-challenging-behaviour-at-home/woman-and-child-looking-at-sea.webp) ### Video: ODD How to manage challenging behaviour at home: Tips for Parents [Video: ODD How to manage challenging behaviour at home: Tips for Parents](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/home-life/tips-for-parents/managing-challenging-behaviour-at-home) Learn 9 expert-backed tips to help you manage challenging, defiant behaviour at home, understand what's really driving it, and strengthen your connection… [ ODD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ODD) [ Conduct Disorder ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Conduct%20Disorder) [ Challenging Behaviour ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Challenging%20Behaviour) [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/struggling-after-my-sons-adhd-diagnosis/adhd-add-a-teachers-experience.jpg) ### Video: Struggling after my son's ADHD diagnosis [Video: Struggling after my son's ADHD diagnosis](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/struggling-after-my-sons-adhd-diagnosis) My son has just got a diagnosis of ADHD/ODD and I’m feeling judged and struggling to cope. Do you have any advice? [ ADHD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ADHD) [ ODD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ODD) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/05.mental-health/09.conduct-disorder/recognising-conduct-disorder-1/conduct-disorders.jpg) ### Video: Recognising Conduct Disorder: Part One [Video: Recognising Conduct Disorder: Part One](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/mental-health/conduct-disorder/recognising-conduct-disorder-1) Conduct disorder can look like defiance, aggression, or a persistent disregard for rules. This film explains the key symptoms to look out for and what… [ ODD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ODD) [ Conduct Disorder ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Conduct%20Disorder) [ Challenging Behaviour ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Challenging%20Behaviour) --- ## Navigation - Parent: [Ask Dr Bettina](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina.md) - Previous: [Supporting a child with dyslexia](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/supporting-a-child-with-dyslexia.md) - Next: [5 Family Wellness tips that actually work](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/5-family-wellness-tips-that-actually-work.md)