--- title: 'Managing tantrums and meltdowns' url: 'https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/managing-tantrums-and-meltdowns' markdown: 'https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/managing-tantrums-and-meltdowns.md' date: '2026-10-28' description: 'When your child has a tantrum or meltdown, they’re having a really big feeling, and your calm can help them regulate. Clinical psychologist Dr Bettina Hohnen suggests telling yourself “this is just a feeling, this too will pass”, keeping your words short and validating, and staying with your child, even in public. There will be time to talk later.' taxonomy: category: - Toolkit contributor: - 'Dr Bettina Hohnen' tag: - 'Conduct Disorder' - 'Challenging Behaviour' - 'Home Life' type: - Video --- # Your calm in your tool: helping a child through a meltdown [ Conduct Disorder ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Conduct%20Disorder) [ Challenging Behaviour ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Challenging%20Behaviour) [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) [ ![Nip in the Bud](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/themes/nitb/images/logos/round-logo.png) ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/about-us "About Nip in the Bud") ![Dr Bettina Hohnen](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/06.about-us/02.authors-and-experts/dr-bettina-hohnen/dr-bettina-hohnen.webp) Speaker [Dr Bettina Hohnen](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/about-us/authors-and-experts/dr-bettina-hohnen)speaker Duration: 0h 0m 57s Published: October 2026 When your child has a tantrum or meltdown, they’re having a really big feeling, and your calm can help them regulate. 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