--- title: Toolkit url: 'https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit' markdown: 'https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit.md' date: '2026-09-16' description: "Understanding a child's struggles is only half the picture - effective support requires the right tools at the right time. These resources give you practical techniques for calming anxious moments, guidance on stepping in early before problems escalate, and proven strategies tailored to your role as parent or teacher. Each approach is grounded in what actually works, offering you confidence when a child needs you most." --- # Toolkit ### Filter by type: - [ Video ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit?type=Video) - [ Article ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit?type=Article) - [ Transcript ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit?type=Transcript) - [ Podcast ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit?type=Podcast) - [ Factsheet ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit?type=Factsheet) - [ All ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/03.home-life/tips-for-parents/what-to-do-when-your-child-has-ptsd-tips-for-parents/children-and-ptsd.jpg) ### Video: What to do when your child has PTSD: Tips for Parents [Video: What to do when your child has PTSD: Tips for Parents](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/home-life/tips-for-parents/what-to-do-when-your-child-has-ptsd-tips-for-parents) A traumatic event can be difficult for a child to understand and process, and it can be challenging for parents and carers trying to support them. Children… [ PTSD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:PTSD) [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/03.home-life/tips-for-parents/managing-challenging-behaviour-at-home/woman-and-child-looking-at-sea.webp) ### Video: ODD How to manage challenging behaviour at home: Tips for Parents [Video: ODD How to manage challenging behaviour at home: Tips for Parents](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/home-life/tips-for-parents/managing-challenging-behaviour-at-home) Learn 9 expert-backed tips to help you manage challenging, defiant behaviour at home, understand what's really driving it, and strengthen your connection… [ ODD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ODD) [ Conduct Disorder ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Conduct%20Disorder) [ Challenging Behaviour ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Challenging%20Behaviour) [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/building-independence-in-neurodivergent-children/diversity-celebration.jpg) ### Video: Building independence in neurodivergent children [Video: Building independence in neurodivergent children](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/building-independence-in-neurodivergent-children) Are you wondering whether you're supporting your child too much? Perhaps you've been helping them with the same things for a long time and are starting… [ Neurodivergence ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Neurodivergence) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/why-wont-my-child-talk-to-me/how-to-help-an-anxious-child.jpg) ### Video: Why won't my child talk to me? [Video: Why won't my child talk to me?](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/why-wont-my-child-talk-to-me) How do I get a child who will not communicate their needs and only answers when asked a question to open up? [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) [ Calming Techniques ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Calming%20Techniques) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/4-things-every-parent-needs-to-know-about-attachment-theory/talking-to-kids-about-cancer.jpg) ### Video: 4 things every parent needs to know about attachment theory [Video: 4 things every parent needs to know about attachment theory](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/4-things-every-parent-needs-to-know-about-attachment-theory) What does attachment mean and why do relationships matter so much as children grow up? [ Anxiety ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Anxiety) [ Home life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20life) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/how-do-i-stop-my-children-picking-on-my-anxiety-over-money/grief_parents_preview-1.jpg) ### Video: How do I stop my children picking up on my anxiety over money? [Video: How do I stop my children picking up on my anxiety over money?](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/how-do-i-stop-my-children-picking-on-my-anxiety-over-money) My money worries are through the roof. How do I stop my children from picking up on my anxiety about the bills? [ Anxiety ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Anxiety) [ Home life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20life) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/how-do-i-help-my-grandson-with-body-dysmorphia/kids-sunday-blues.jpg) ### Video: How do I help my grandson with Body Dysmorphia? [Video: How do I help my grandson with Body Dysmorphia?](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/how-do-i-help-my-grandson-with-body-dysmorphia) I’m really concerned for my grandson who is 12 and seems to be showing signs of obsessively checking his appearance, finding something constantly wrong… [ BDD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:BDD) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/does-my-child-have-ocd/ocdmyths.webp) ### Video: Does my child have OCD? [Video: Does my child have OCD?](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/does-my-child-have-ocd) My daughter is 10 and she has started getting stuck on scary thoughts that she can’t stops thinking about and she can’t go to bed unless the washing machine… [ OCD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:OCD) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/how-do-i-talk-to-my-child-about-death/grief-in-children.jpg) ### Video: How do I talk to my child about death? [Video: How do I talk to my child about death?](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/how-do-i-talk-to-my-child-about-death) Grief. My son is 6 and my husband has died unexpectedly. We are all in deep shock. How do I explain death to my son, and should he attend my husband’s… [ Grief ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Grief) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/supporting-a-child-with-dyslexia/dyslexia-in-children.jpg) ### Video: Supporting a child with dyslexia [Video: Supporting a child with dyslexia](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/supporting-a-child-with-dyslexia) My 9-year-old daughter has just been diagnosed with dyslexia. She’s pretty down. How do I best support her with this? [ Dyslexia ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Dyslexia) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/what-is-odd-a-guide-for-parents/adhd-in-children.webp) ### Video: What is ODD? A guide for parents [Video: What is ODD? A guide for parents](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/what-is-odd-a-guide-for-parents) The school is telling me my 10-year-old son is being obstructive, not doing what he’s told at school. I’ve told him that he’s always been like this, and… [ ODD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ODD) [ ADHD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ADHD) [ Conduct Disorder ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Conduct%20Disorder) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/5-family-wellness-tips-that-actually-work/resilience.webp) ### Video: 5 Family Wellness tips that actually work [Video: 5 Family Wellness tips that actually work](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/5-family-wellness-tips-that-actually-work) Global Wellness Day is a great time to reflect on how we can support our own well-being and that of our kids. This video encourages families of all shapes… [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) [ Calming Techniques ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Calming%20Techniques) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/my-adopted-child-is-struggling-with-school-anxiety/barriers-to-learning-22.jpg) ### Video: My adopted child is struggling with school anxiety [Video: My adopted child is struggling with school anxiety](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/my-adopted-child-is-struggling-with-school-anxiety) If you're a parent or carer of a looked-after child struggling with separation anxiety, you're not alone, and support is available. [ School Avoidance ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:School%20Avoidance) [ Anxiety ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Anxiety) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/5-tips-to-help-you-survive-the-school-holidays/thrive-the-holidays.jpg) ### Video: 5 Tips to help you survive the school holidays [Video: 5 Tips to help you survive the school holidays](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/5-tips-to-help-you-survive-the-school-holidays) Holidays aren't always easy for kids (or adults for that matter). Family get-togethers can create all sorts of dynamics that children might not be used… [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) [ Anxiety ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Anxiety) [ Mental Health ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Mental%20Health) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/5-tips-on-building-resilience-in-young-children/chickenshed.jpeg) ### Video: 5 Tips on building resilience in young children [Video: 5 Tips on building resilience in young children](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/5-tips-on-building-resilience-in-young-children) 5 parenting tips to build resilience in your children. 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Do you have any… [ Anxiety ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Anxiety) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/my-child-is-being-left-out-of-social-media-groups/social-media-exclusion.jpg) ### Video: My child is being left out of social media groups [Video: My child is being left out of social media groups](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/my-child-is-being-left-out-of-social-media-groups) Social Media. My 12-year-old daughter is being left out of some friendship what’s app groups. She can also see on snapmaps that her friends are meeting… [ Online Harm ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Online%20Harm) [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/how-can-i-help-my-daughter-with-her-adhd-ass-she-starts-at-secondary-school/talking-about-neurodiversity.webp) ### Video: How can I help my daughter with her ADHD as she starts at Secondary school? [Video: How can I help my daughter with her ADHD as she starts at Secondary scho…](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/how-can-i-help-my-daughter-with-her-adhd-ass-she-starts-at-secondary-school) I have a 12-year-old daughter. Could you please let me have some idea of signs she may have ADD? [ ADHD ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:ADHD) [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/04.school-life/building-great-schools/great-schools.jpg) ### Article: Building great schools [Article: Building great schools](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/school-life/building-great-schools) Developing the inclusivity of vulnerable children by using the word ‘underserved’ rather than ‘disadvantaged’, bringing the onus of change on adults in… [ School Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:School%20Life) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/bullying-among-siblings/bullying-verbal-abuse.webp) ### Video: Bullying among siblings [Video: Bullying among siblings](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/bullying-among-siblings) My 13-year-old son is constantly undermining and picking on his 10-year-old sister. It makes her miserable at home. People keep saying it’s an older brother… [ Bullying ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Bullying) [ Home Life ](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/results/tag:Home%20Life) ![](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/user/pages/03.toolkit/06.ask-dr-bettina/how-can-i-deal-with-sibling-rivalry-sensitively/bullied-child.webp) ### Video: How can I deal with sibling rivalry sensitively? [Video: How can I deal with sibling rivalry sensitively?](https://nipinthebud.trilbyhost.com/toolkit/ask-dr-bettina/how-can-i-deal-with-sibling-rivalry-sensitively) 5 top tips for managing sibling rivalry and building healthy relationships. 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